Feel the Fear…and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers
One Line Summary
Are you someone who thinks that successful people are fearless? That they seem imperturbable even in situations where you know you’d crumble? And have you ever wondered why it is that they’re like this and you’re not? They just seem “different”, maybe born a certain way or some other lucky factor that you didn’t get.
This is all a sham.
A complete fucking illusion, a self-reinforced fantasy. No one is immune to fear, they simply know how to push through it. What Feel the Fear…and Do It Anyway will teach you is not how to be fearless, but act in the face of
Why it’s Awesome
The question of how someone can perform necessary action in the face of fear is actually very simple. I finished the audiobook version in 60 minutes, and honestly, everything is there that a beginner would need to know about this topic. But while the answer is simple, that does not take away from its difficulty in practically implementing. Acting in the face of fear is something you have to be willing to spend a lot of time on conquering.
So how do you actually act in the face of fear? It’s not “just suck it up, bro” or “just do it” as most people would tell you. This problem runs much deeper than that.
The real issue is your psychology. Most people live with a voice inside their head that won’t shut up and almost never has anything positive to say. This is both normal and insane. While the voice isn’t “bad”, is it any wonder that you can’t be courageous when you have someone shouting in your ear that you suck? It’s the same tactic home team fans uses against the away team in sports.
The solution is to change your self-talk. There are many ways to do this, but the basic one that Jeffers outlines in this book is positive affirmations. Affirmations are present tense statements that trigger your subconscious mind to do your bidding. If that sounds ridiculous to you, realize how many things there are in your life that you seem to have no control over. You want to lose weight, but you can’t seem to find the motivation to eat healthier. You want to ask that person out on a date, but something holds you back.
What’s going on here? Wouldn’t you say it’s almost like there’s two different people inside of you, one pushing you to do the right thing, and another holding you back?
That’s the power of the subconscious mind. You can study and read up exactly on how it works. I will go much more into detail on that in other reviews. But for now I’m just going to cover the basics.
Affirmations can either work in your favor or against you. Negative statements will command your subconscious brain to put you in a negative emotional state. That means you have to start consciously taking control over the influences you are putting in your brain. You’re trying to break a deep habit (negative thinking) and it’s something that can be extremely difficult to do depending on the person.
By the way, yes affirmations really do work. I don’t care if there are no double blind studies confirming this, my own experience is all I need. Try them out and come to your own conclusions. But you have to buy in on at least some level or you won’t stick with them long enough for them to work. So even if you’re skeptical, take it on faith for now.
Why Does It Suck
This is a very simple beginner’s guide for dealing with self-talk. There are much more advanced techniques that may be more useful if you’ve been in self-development for a while or if you just happen to come into this with a high level of psychological development.
The Wrap Up
Great book for beginner’s, but advanced student’s can probably get away with skipping this one unless you just want a refresher in some of the basics. Overall, a very practical, clear guide on how to change you thinking. Definitely recommend it.